My mom

This past month has been rocky as my mom fell at the end of January and broke several ribs and badly bruised a lung. It spiralled into pneumonia and multiple UTI’s. This is compounded by her having Lewey Body Dementia and Parkinson’s Disease. She spent a month in the hospital and has moved now to an assisted living facility.

My sister and I have had full plates while we work, worry about kids, visit our mom, meet with drs, physiotherapists, social workers, arrange movers to vacate her apartment, find an open bed in a full care facility (not an easy task based on multiple factors) and remember what day it is ( garbage, groceries, school trips, hockey, ringette, soccer, part time jobs, dentist, hair cuts, and my usual “who am I today?” #substituteteacherhumour)

I have bought a few beads that remind me of my mom and to help me to remember to breathe.

Ohm beads Sip Happens is a limited edition bead that is still available at some retailers that makes me think of my mom and her girlfriends. God only knows what we would do without girlfriends

I bought the latest Trollbeads Mamma Mia too

I have a thing for flowers. I like daises more than roses, it’s that open face that I find cheery and happy and uplifting.

Flowers are why I started collecting the Trollbeads flower of the month beads

I started with April for my dad after he passed away and then I got July and September for my boys as a Mother’s Day gift. I bought October with Mamma Mia to act as a focal point when I was stressing over all the worry and decisions that had to be made with my mom. This is one bracelet that stays together. I want to add 2 more pearls and beads for my husband and me. I just keep getting distracted by new beads and life.

Sometimes I think maybe I should make a few more bracelets that stay together

These are a few that I could put on a bracelet for my mom but then I think Mamma Mia looks good on copper

So I should maybe start from here?

This is why people must buy multiples, so they have options or balance. I’m more of a single bead person or a group of beads that are sort of similar person 🤔 I’m definitely a make a bracelet to match what I’m wearing person. Also I’m an extremely distracted all over the place person as I reread this blog post 🤣

Here’s to March being a month of calm where only the weather goes nuts and lots of bead mail arrives and my mom continues to improve and adjust to her new surroundings.

I hope the sun is shining where you are

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Author: mcctrish

I need a place to put some of the words that crowd my brain. I think that by sorting and organizing them, I will tame them. They can wield power outside of me. I am trying to write more often, to make it a habit, like flossing. September is full of new beginnings

9 thoughts on “My mom”

  1. I so hope that your Mom finds peace and that you do, too. My Mom had dementia and was primarily cared for by my Dad (I live 600 miles away from them). It was terribly difficult for Dad to deal with it all and I wasn’t able to help. In spite of the grief it causes you, you are blessed to be able to participate in her care.

    Love and light to you both.❤️

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    1. What a lovely man your dad must be ❤️ and I am thankful to be here for my mom, I don’t know how we would do it from afar. Thank you for your kind thoughts

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  2. I am so sorry, first for the loss of your Dad, and now for all you are going through with your Mom 😢. Its the hardest thing in the world to lose those who have been our strength, cheerleaders, and our stronghold all of our lives, and worse still to watch them deteriorate, suffer, and leave us in an emotional heart wrenching, decline. I lost my Grandmother, who was more of a Mom to me, the person who loved me most of all, a few years back, and I swear it ripped my heart right out of my chest. I didn’t know how I could go on without her, she was one of the biggest loves of my life, and the kindest, most loving and tender woman I’ve ever met. I will say for sure that immersing myself in the beautiful little bits that are Trollbeads (I was not into Ohm at that time), playing with them, arranging them, hoarding them, buying them, selling them, and interacting with my ever so kind customers, besides constant prayer, is what got me through the hardest of times afterwards when I felt I couldn’t breathe. I understand that very much. The bracelets and necklaces that I put together over the years afterwards, I have not, nor ever plan to, take apart. If I want a new design I will pull a bead from elsewhere or buy it. The beautiful glass makes us smile, it calms our minds, we can create things with deep personal meaning with the beautiful bits, and this is the reason that we all love them so. I am sorry again, you can feel the emotions in your note, I know your thoughts and expressions may be all over the place but its ok, your words were beautiful and honest. The photo of your Mom was very tender, thank you for sharing it with some complete strangers, and voicing your sorrow. As for the beads, have to always go back to them, the Mamma Mia definitely looks better on the Copper, I had not even thought of that, so you’ve inspired me to go create a pretty arrangement with it myself on my copper bangle 😍. I have 2 pearls, I believe you are hunting them and they would look lovely on your bracelet. They have been sitting in a tray waiting for me to list, or perhaps waiting for you to mention you needed them. Would you like the two? If so let me know, I am happy to gift them to you if it will make you smile for a moment, and in honor of your two parents. Thank you again for sharing what you are going through, hang in there, it will be ok.. ❤

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    1. You’ve made me cry at your thoughtful words and selfless gesture. It was cathartic to write my blog but also a way to let some people who know me what has been going on so I don’t have to make phone calls and visits. I continue to feel drained and overwhelmed by all the tasks and emotions and writing this was a bit of an easy way to get it all out there. If you are certain you don’t want or need the pearls I would certainly embrace their addition to my bracelet. They will reinforce my belief that there are wonderful people in the world that come into your life when you least expect them but obviously have need for them

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      1. Hello again, now I am wracking my brain to figure out how I found your blog, one second I was reading a post in one of the FB groups, the next minute I was reading your blog, there must have been a link with a partial post, but what you said touched my heart because I know what you are going through and I am very sorry. I only know a few in the groups, not personally but by name, which is fine as we all share the same love of beads, and everyone goes through something very difficult at one time or other, none are immune, and I understand the pain. I buy Trollbeads inventories from Dealers that are going out of the brand for resale purposes, and Pandora, but not often as Pandora is now requiring Authorized Dealers to return their inventory. I’ve done this for the past 5+ years, that is how I originally discovered Trollbeads at a store in Wilmington, NC, a former Authorized Dealer called Sterling House that closed. I had only gone to the sale to purchase their commercial phone system, but they were selling their remaining Trollbeads inventory as well and I purchased about 1/2. Then I fell in love with them myself :-). I am very thankful because the lovely little bits are what got me through the agonizingly painful times when my Grandmother was failing, and then after she was gone :-(. But the 2 White Pearls in particular, I just looked and actually have 3 however one is very tiny, have been sitting and every time I go through the trays looking for something in particular for a buyer I pass them by, and for some reason I’ve just never taken them out to photograph and list. This particular inventory I purchased almost 2 years ago so I’ve had them that long, however they are brand new, just been stored. I will polish the cores for you also. They are a very good size and very lovely, and I am gifting them to you to give you a bit of a smile at this difficult time to help you get through the things you need to do, and to remember, one for your Dad and one for your Mom. I honestly feel each Bead has a home and for the life of me I do not know why I never listed these, I guess they were waiting to go to you :-). I had to input my email to send you a message on the blog so I’m hoping you have it and I do not need to note it here. If you do have just send me a note with your mailing address, or post it in response to me here if you feel comfortable doing that, and I will send them home to you tomorrow :-).

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      2. I can’t see where to see details like emails, I wonder if you saw my link in the addicted to Beads group on FB? I could dm you through there or you could email me at pmcclure@rogers.com ( that’s kind of cool that you bought up stock like that) and it is very generous that you want to give me anything at all but a pearl for each of my parents is just beyond words

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  3. Stumbled upon this post and was touched … my mother has recently been diagnosed with Lewey Body Dementia (probably should have been diagnosed about a year ago) and just last week was moved to assisted living. As painful as it is to see her suffer, we also learning a new strength in loving her at the best of times and the worst of times. Thanks for writing about your journey … it must be especially hard with the recent loss of your father. Peace to you.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words. I’m sorry to hear you are walking this path too. I wish you and your mother more better times than bad as you move forward with this disease

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